FAQ: Is Divorce a Sin?

This FAQ was thoughtfully written by Bev Green, Discovery’s Local Outreach Liason.  I had to wrestle with this one a bit before posting, and then my beloved computer crashed, so I’m just now back online to post it.  I appreciate Bev’s perspective here.  What do you think?


Does God Consider Divorce Sin? by Bev Green

Why I picked this topic is beyond me but since divorce is such a large part of my life I guess it makes perfect sense that I felt like God was leading me to tackle this question not just for the blog but for some inner healing of my own so thanks for asking this particular question.

There are so many different directions from which to approach this question so I think I will just dig in.  While laying this question out to some other ladies we came to an interesting place and asked a new question, Is divorce sin or is it simply that sin leads to divorce?  This is the direction I hope to take.

Old Testament scripture is very specific in saying that God hates divorce.  Malachi 2:16 (Msg) states, “I hate divorce,” says the God of Israel, God-of-the-Angel-Armies says, “I hate the violent dismembering of the ‘one flesh’ of marriage.”  So watch yourselves.  Don’t let your guard down.  Don’t cheat.”  Now I am a KJV girl but this version says it clearly, God Hates Divorce.  That being said there are many provisions in scripture where God allows for divorce.  Matthew 5:32 and 19:9 both speak of provisions for divorce however show that it was not God’s intent for our relationships.  God sees the conditions of our hearts and He in his ultimate wisdom knows our capability for committing evilness.  Matthew 19:8 (NIV) – Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard.  But it was not this way from the beginning.”  In a perfect world divorce would not exist but we all know we live in an imperfect world so as a result of the hardness of our hearts and the evil that dwells in this world divorce is a huge part of our every day life.  I am sure that everyone reading this post has been impacted by divorce in some way.  We have either gone through it ourselves or someone we love dearly has been devastated by divorce.  The Message put is so graphically by saying it is the “violent dismembering of the ‘one flesh’.  Wow pretty vivid description.

Jeremiah 3:8 makes an interesting statement, God is speaking regarding Israel, “I gave faithless Israel her certificate of divorce and sent her away because of all her adulteries….”  Here, God actually uses the metaphor of divorce to describe his relationship to unfaithful Israel. That’s very strong language.

It would be so much easier if scripture just came out and said, “Divorce is sin.” Scripture clearly indicates that sin is involved in divorce and that it is not God’s ideal, but Scripture also clearly teaches that it only takes one to divorce, that it can be the result of a person’s sin and that it is not the unforgivable sin.  As I read the scriptures I come back to the place where the act of divorce itself is not sin but it is the act of sin that leads to divorce.  I think we have to look at each situation individually and make the call based on what is truly in our hearts and where the Holy Spirit is leading.  God’s design was for a man and a woman to enter into a marriage relationship and to remain in that place for the balance of life however as with all of God’s perfect plan for His children we seem to get in the way.


4 Replies to “FAQ: Is Divorce a Sin?”

  1. Hallo Pastor.Hope you well as I so wish.I have read an liked very* much your scripture on topic “Is Devorce sin?”.You have eye open me with your clarification on this topic.I then passed it to my ex-wife to learn it as we still communicating by phone but in return so tells me I must not pass such things to her as she claims she knows very well what the bible tells about the devorce issue.She is the one who file devorce papers for me twice as first attempt I defended it succesfuly as it was full of constructed lias.What happened is we had (1)Power strungly issue in our marriege,Which I liked the clarity made on this topic by this site as far as I’m would wish lot people would read it including law makers as well as lawyers up to the minister of religion who are busy misleading God people yet people trust them to be guiding them proper Godly hance they not,(2)Sex issue “I was made to starve”,(3) I commited adultery which she use strongly in her devorce cause.Therefore as a result of how adultery is refer to by today courts an today laws I was one at fault, as courts do note take to consideration what happened an how it happened as no consideration is taken by court of history causes in marriage.I’m saying to her let us reconcile resume our marriage vowels while God is still giving us chanse to repent but my ex-wife she says she is fine leaving like this she need no reconcilation an she thank God help her out of never worked marriage.My ex-wife is one of those people refer themself devoted christian.I’m a strong God believer but I do not refer myself as devoted christian.My now lady/mistress is saying we must sort out our matter/differances not use her as an ascape goat.We have 2daughter with my ex an I have 2set of twince with my mistress.We were marrie in COP(Comunity Of Property) which she wanted all we had to herself an I forfeited too on behalf of the kids we have with her.My ex will take this chance to file for divorce in time she knew I’m out of work as I was employed in contruct bases.However I’m saying let’s put all behind us return to God posation expacted posation she is refusing saying she is ok like this as she say she thanks God she got her out of the marriege that never worked.My wife is one of the Directors of IT company name(Lusizo IT Solution with website Lusizoit.co.za)the family business I also left with her,did not take a peny out of it.I would like if possable Pastor to advice what to do to resolve this Godly.I do not condem my action taken of getting out of our wedding up to the stand of getting kids but infact she was telling me at the time refusing to get me more kids she ruther have me getting the kids with someone alse than her getting me any kid at above 35years as there are complecation dificult to deliver normaly leading to sizerling which leads to mothers failing to make it so passing away.If I tell her it was in olden days when the sizerling would fail in our days such risk are limited she woukd say I’m tromertising her an if I say she must trust God also all this would not work with her.Give me your help Pastor if possable even calling her talk to her.Warm Regards Bongani Ngema in South Africa.Email addres7:033.ngema@gmail.com,Mobile No:+2784 926 1237 an her Mobile/my ex name is Mpume:+2782 780 7112.


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