You can manage invisible dynamics that infect your relationships.
(including with God!)
Get relief from internal pressure and relational tension.
Manage contagious anxiety, dissolve stuck patterns, increase emotional health.
Get your freedom and joy back.
Introducing
The Human Sized Journal.
The God With Us Candle with Prayer Guide.
Beautifully boxed and packaged. Perfect for Gift Season.
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Human Sized Journal
A companion for real growth—the kind that helps you become more connected, aware, and present to yourself, to others, and to God. Whether you spend a few minutes each morning or linger over a section for weeks, Human-Sized helps you take the next step toward becoming a well self. Click ‘purchase’ to see more pics.
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Boxed Sand Wax Candle
Refillable ceramic ‘God With Us candle. Sand Wax in vanilla sandalwood fragrance plus wicks. Cream or grey colors. Purchase more sand wax when done. Advent guide: Scripture readings, family discussions, and reflection practices. Click ‘purchase’ to see more pics.
What the kids are saying:
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Chip and Jo Gaines
Magnolia, Fixer Upper
Steve's time with our Magnolia staff was WONDERFUL. He helped put words to the anxiety that so many people feel both on a personal and professional level. Since his visit, we've been able to see the practical utilization of what Steve taught, which has been invaluable. We highly recommend!
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Rich Villodas
Pastor. Author: The Deeply Formed Life.
With profound depth of insight, humor, and empathy, Steve is a trusted guide for those looking to lead as a “calm presence” in the world. I highly recommend him for your personal life and organization.
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Christine Caine
Speaker, Author, Founder of A21
We are SO GRATEFUL for Steve. His work with our global team and me personally, is phenomenal. Our team voted Steve 'the best thing that happened in our organization this year.' He's helped us so much.
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Resources
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Capable Life
Tools that are spiritual, clinical and practical.
My private community where I guide you through skills. Zoom meetings, courses, discussion and much more. We open to new members in January 2026. Click below to get an email when we open
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Podcast
Fresh conversations and tools to help you relax into God’s presence. Listen to guests like Beth Moore, Henry Cloud and 160 others. Subscribe wherever you get your pods or check out our Youtube channel below.
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TEG
The book that is revolutionizing our faith by helping us mind the gap between our beliefs and experience. Deal with deep seated assumptions and stuck patterns., change the way you approach the Bible and yourself. Click below for church wide sermon series and group study resources
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MLA
The book that started it all! Get relief by diffusing dynamics under the surface in you and your people. Learn detangle what is in you vs what is coming at you from others. Break predictable patterns, stop attempted solutions. Required reading in over 20 universities and seminaries.
“The differentiated self is a connected presence.
Curious. Non Reactive.
Keeping anxiety from spreading to others,
sifting assumptions and false expectations.
Connecting to self, others and God.
This is difficult and life giving work.”
My speciality: four dynamics that infect all relationships:
Reactivity. (The only form of anxiety that is contagious.)
Assumptions. (The fastest way to disconnection.)
Predictable Patterns. (You run into yourself again and again or you are weary of the same dance with that other person.)
Attempted Solutions. (Your best effort to fix it keeps it stuck or makes it worse.)
I help you notice, name, and diffuse them in you and your relationships.
The Results:
You can work with difficult people without catching what they’re spreading.
You can break long standing dynamics that wear everyone down.
You can put the anxiety back where it belongs and help people take responsibility.
You can be well while working in the most broken and intense situations.
Your body can relax in the peace and freedom of God that your head believes in.
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