Managing Leadership Anxiety:

Yours and Theirs

Leadership anxiety has more to do with emotional subtext than workload. When ‘try harder’ and ‘more of the same’ doesn’t work, you can access a whole other gear by looking under the surface of yourself and your relational patterns:

  • Name and move through triggers and sources of anxiety under the surface.


  • Learn how to reduce your reactivity, become a non-anxious presence and notice when anxiety is becoming contagious in a group.


  • Notice recurring patterns in relationships that keep them stuck or make them worse.


  • Discover what you are holding and what is holding you.


  • Learn some systems theory and pay attention to the way people relate as much as what they say. 


Whether you lead a team, a staff, a family or an organization, or if you find yourself in recurring habits and patterns, you can use the material on this site to access tools that help.


The Book

Available April 9 2019


1. The Anxiety Gap

2. Anxiety, Freedom, and How the Gospel Works

3. Sources of Internal Anxiety

4. Idols, Vows, and the Story We Tell Ourselves

5. Sources of Relational Anxiety

6. Applying Family Systems to Leadership

7. Tools That Diffuse Anxiety

8. Genograms: What Has Been Handed Down

9. Verbatims: Knowing How You Show Up

10. A Wider Scope and a Deeper Capacity

The Podcast

Launching Nov 16

Listen as guests discuss their own leadership challenges, what makes them anxious, what they do when they are stuck. Some of our guests offer specific tools to help you deal with internal and relational anxiety.

Upcoming guests include: Kay Warren, Ron Edmondson, Glenn Packiam, Sherry Surratt, Marshall Shelley, Geoff Surratt, Makoto Fujimara, Nancy Ortberg, Jay Pathak.

Upcoming tools Include: Genograms, Internal Family Systems, Differentiation.

Check back in early November to subscribe.

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