Learn to manage invisible dynamics

that cost too much.

Contagious anxiety - Internal pressure - Stuck patterns

Live a soul satisfying life in the midst of it all.

What the kids are saying:

  • Chip and Jo Gaines

    Chip and Jo Gaines

    Magnolia, Fixer Upper

    Steve's time with our Magnolia staff was WONDERFUL. He helped put words to the anxiety that so many people feel both on a personal and professional level. Since his visit, we've been able to see the practical utilization of what Steve taught, which has been invaluable. We highly recommend!

  • Rich Villodas

    Rich Villodas

    Pastor. Author: The Deeply Formed Life.

    With profound depth of insight, humor, and empathy, Steve is a trusted guide for those looking to lead as a “calm presence” in the world. I highly recommend him for your personal life and organization.

  • Christine Caine

    Christine Caine

    Speaker, Author, Founder of A21

    We are SO GRATEFUL for Steve. His work with our global team and me personally, is phenomenal. Our team voted Steve 'the best thing that happened in our organization this year.' He's helped us so much.

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The 6 Results:

  1. Pinpoint who is generating anxiety and who is carrying it. Help everyone take responsibility.

  2. Break long standing habits and patterns that wear everyone down.

  3. Manage your own false needs, triggers and inner critic.

  4. Train your body to believe what your head believes and relax into God’s presence.

  5. Deep connection and presence in the most broken and intense situations.

  6. Cultivate life giving habits, increase your laughter and gratitude quotient, get your vocational joy back.

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    Tools that are spiritual, clinical and practical.

    Get our framework for a connected, aware, present life in the workplace and home place. Grab a self paced course or join our support community which comes with zoom meetings and more.

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    Fresh conversations and skills to help you relax into God’s presence and improve your relational health. Listen to guests like Beth Moore, Henry Cloud and 200+ others. Subscribe wherever you get your pods or check out our Youtube channel below.

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  • TEG

    TEG

    The book that revolutionizes your faith by helping you mind the gap between your beliefs and experience. Unearth deep seated assumptions and stuck patterns, change the way you approach the Bible and yourself. Click below for church wide sermon series and group study resources.

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  • Managing Leadership Anxiety

    MLA

    The book that started it all! Get relief by diffusing dynamics under the surface in you and your people. Detangle what is in you vs what is coming at you from others. Break predictable patterns, stop attempted solutions. Required reading in over 20 universities and seminaries.

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Sermon Series For The Expectation Gap

“The differentiated self is a connected presence.

Curious. Non Reactive.

Keeping anxiety from spreading to others,

sifting assumptions and false expectations.

Connecting to self, others and God.

This is difficult and life giving work.”

My speciality: four dynamics that infect all relationships:

  1. Reactivity. (The only form of anxiety that is contagious.)

  2. Assumptions. (The fastest way to disconnection.)

  3. Predictable Patterns. (You run into yourself again and again or you are weary of the same dance with that other person.)

  4. Attempted Solutions. (Your best effort to fix it keeps it stuck or makes it worse.)

    I help you notice, name, and diffuse them.

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